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Let The Truth Be Told

your wedding. So, how can you possibly determine the right information from the wrong information? In some situations, what is acceptable in 2013 is very different from what was appropriate at your grandmother’s wedding over 50 years ago. Since the wedding industry is forever evolving, even some advice you receive from a bride of ten years ago may no longer apply.

That is exactly why Nebraska WeddingDay is here to serve you! We are your trusted adviser on all things wedding. Not only do we bring you the latest in bridal fashions, floral design, handcrafted details, and so much more, we also aid you in determining what is appropriate and what is not. There will always be information floating around that is not necessarily accurate. We are here to help you handle the misconceptions and to guide you through the wedding myths.

Wedding Myth #1
A wedding planner is an unnecessary expense.
Sure, wedding planners cost money. But keep in mind that a wedding planner can offer invaluable advice, assist in making decisions, and ultimately save you from a multitude of headaches. Additionally, a wedding planner may actually end up saving you some money with her business connections within the industry.

Consider this scenario: You are trying to negotiate a group rate with a hotel for your out-of-town guests. They are not budging from what you consider to be an unreasonable amount of money for your guests to spend on accommodations. You have your heart set on this particular hotel and are beginning to get frustrated. Here is an example of where your wedding planner can really shine. You’ve been wasting valuable time on an issue that isn’t going to be resolved by you alone.

Your wedding planner has worked with this hotel before and has brought them significant business over the years. She can use that previous business relationship with the hotel sales manager to not only settle on a more satisfactory cost, but also save you the time and effort of trying to work through an issue that wasn’t going your way. Everyone wins!

Wedding Myth #2
Only the bride should wear white.
Thanks to the high-profile wedding of Prince William and Catherine Middleton, the tradition of white being worn only by the bride is no longer a steadfast rule. After all, if the Duchess of Cambridge doesn’t mind her maid of honor wearing a white dress, why should you give it a second thought when your cousin shows up in white? Ideally, close family members should check with the bride before selecting a white dress for the occasion.

When it comes to your wedding party, thankfully there is a wide selection of colors, fabrics, and styles available to choose from. It is entirely up to you whether your bridesmaids are decked out in different shades of green, blue, or ivory. You can even mix and match similar styles and hues, as long as the end result is tasteful and coordinated. Regarding shades of white or ivory—as long as you are comfortable sharing your color, everyone else should be as well!

Wedding Myth #3
A DIY wedding will save you money.
If the truth be told, handmade details can be time-consuming and expensive. You may end up learning the hard way after you and your five bridesmaids have logged over a hundred hours creating absolutely stunning handcrafted invitations.

Once you have accomplished the invitation project, you realize you also planned on crafting the reception decorations, designing and assembling your own floral arrangements, as well as creating your own wedding favors for a guest list of 200. Your head is spinning! But that’s okay because you are saving a bunch of money, right? Well as it turns out, you realize the materials for your beautiful invitations ended up costing you about $7 per invitation, when factoring in manpower and materials. Suddenly, a DIY wedding doesn’t sound so wonderful after all.

Cheer up! Handcrafted details do not have to overwhelm you as long as your plans are realistic and achievable. Also, keep in mind that there are hundreds of fantastic wedding vendors waiting to do the job for you. Their sole purpose is to help ease your burden and give you what you desire for your special day.

Unlike many DIY projects which you may be trying for the first time and praying it works, these vendors have years of experience to draw upon in creating a perfect product for your wedding day. Trying to take on everything yourself is just begging for a stress level that will be off the charts. Pick a few handcrafted details that truly speak to you, and then decide if those projects are something you can tackle or whether executing those details would be better left to the professionals.

Wedding Myth #4
Seating charts are a waste of time.
While it’s true that seating charts are not the etiquette requirement they once were, there is still a huge benefit to taking the time to put one together. Keep in mind that if you hire a wedding planner, she can do a lot of this tedious work for you.

Consider how using assigned table seating shows your guests that you put great consideration into caring about their comfort and ease at the reception. You will certainly breathe a sigh of relief knowing your Uncle Eddie won’t be getting flirty with your friend Alyssa when they accidentally end up at the same table.

Remember there are many fun options with seating charts and cards these days! If you are having an outdoor reception, consider something more creative. Utilize the awesome skills of an artsy friend, a little chalkboard paint, and some colorful twine. You can hang the place cards off the backs of the chairs rather than cluttering the tabletop. If it is an elegant indoor reception, have some classy table numbers and place cards printed. This is an easy handcrafted project to accomplish with some nice card stock and a good quality printer.

Just remember to be considerate of your guests. It is wise to have your parents and others close to the family review the chart to make certain you have not overlooked a feud or uncomfortable relationship and placed those parties at the same table.

Wedding Myth #5
Buffets are cheaper than plated dinners.
In the past, it has been assumed that buffets are a money-saving option for dinner receptions. While this has generally been the case, it is not always true. While buffets can be fantastic for offering your guests a variety of choices, some food options can still be rather costly, especially when choosing to include one or more carving stations. While a self-service buffet minimizes necessary wait staff, it does not allow for portion control. If not properly managed, a self-service buffet can leave the last guests in line with food that is past its prime or even without food at all. One option to control portions in a buffet line is to have your caterer provide wait staff to “serve” portions from one side of the buffet to the guest as they move through the line on the other side of the buffet. This not only provides some portion control, but it also allows wait staff to more closely monitor when food is running low.

Don’t automatically count out the benefits of a plated dinner reception, which can still allow your guests choices while bringing an added level of elegance to your reception. There’s nothing quite like being served a delicious meal to make a guest feel pampered and satisfied. Be certain to include the entree choices on your response card and track the selections for your caterer.

Wedding Myth #6
A big second wedding is inappropriate.
Just because you had a big wedding before, doesn’t mean you can’t do it again. Don’t let anyone guilt you into toning down your wedding simply because things didn’t work out with your previous marriage. You do not have to be relegated to a city hall ceremony for your second wedding. Your vows are just as important for your second wedding as they were the first time around, so why shouldn’t you be able to celebrate your love in a big way? Every bride deserves her day, no matter how many times she walks down the aisle. If you and your groom can afford it, plan a wedding that truly celebrates your union.

Just remember, it really does not matter what others think. Your wedding day is about celebrating the love you and your fiancé share for one another. If you want to share your joy by throwing a big party for your guests, it doesn’t matter who might object.

Wedding Myth #7
It is bad luck for the groom to see you before you walk down the aisle.
It is definitely not bad luck for the wedding couple to see one another before the bride walks down the aisle. Honoring this age-old tradition is a matter of choice for the bride and groom. Since great wedding photos are a top priority for brides, it is much more convenient, and just as romantic, to photograph a “first look” before you walk down the aisle.

Plus, think of all the benefits that come from taking photographs early. Your guests will not be waiting for two hours before the wedding party arrives at the reception. Also, you and your groom will be able to spend much more of the day together enjoying each other. It even affords you the time to sneak off and take some wedding couple photos in a unique location, capturing precious memories from your big day.

If you want to follow tradition and wait for your man to see you walk down the aisle, there’s nothing wrong with that either. The moment will be special either way. Just decide what is comfortable for you and not what you think you “should” do.

Keep in mind there are no longer steadfast rules when it comes to proper decorum for today’s weddings. The best advice is to always be tasteful in your choices and considerate of your wedding party, family, and guests. Make your decisions based upon how best you can celebrate your love on this very special day with people that truly care about you. |NWD|